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A woman revealed her husband had an affair with her best friend. The betrayal ended two marriages and left her devastated. Strangers on Mumsnet offered support
Mumsnet users responded with empathy and offered words of support. One advised her to avoid making major decisions while still emotionally raw, urging her to preserve her dignity. (AI Generated)
A British woman has shared her heartbreak after discovering her husband’s affair with her best friend, describing it as a betrayal that left her feeling like they had become ‘co-wives’. The affair, which unfolded while she was collecting her children from school, was revealed through a post on Mumsnet.
The Illusion Of Trust
Posting under the username @growgirl, the woman explained that although the affair ended the previous year, she only recently uncovered the truth. The revelation devastated her, as her friend had once confided in her and been comforted during her own marital breakdown; a breakdown caused, unbeknownst to the woman at the time, due to her friend’s affair with her husband.
The two families had grown close, with their children being best friends. Her husband, who worked as a personal trainer, often spent time with the woman’s friend under the pretext of training, which she never questioned. While she was out collecting the children from school, her friend would secretly meet her husband at a hotel, betraying her trust behind her back.
Warning Signs And Breakdown
She grew suspicious when her husband frequently lingered at the friend’s home for a ‘last drink’. Arguments followed, and her worst fears were confirmed. The betrayal has led to the collapse of two marriages, and the woman has since been prescribed Diazepam as she attempts to cope with the trauma.
Community Support
Mumsnet users responded with empathy and offered words of support. One advised her to avoid making major decisions while still emotionally raw, urging her to preserve her dignity. Another encouraged her to leave the marriage and begin a new chapter. A third reacted with anger, telling her to hold her head high and ask her husband to leave. A fourth reassured her that the shame did not lie with her.
Deeply moved by the responses, the woman admitted to feeling shocked and fearful about what lies ahead, uncertain whether she could ever forgive the betrayal. She also expressed a strong wish to move out of her current home as soon as possible.
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